If you are the least bit annoyed, do nothing. Exercise is the best way to get rid of "anger chemicals," or just walk away and wait till you chill.
Before you open your mouth, stop and think about how and what you will say.
Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Calmly.
Never, ever raise your voice.
If your partner thinks your voice is too loud, it is too loud. It doesn't matter if you don't agree.
If you are too emotional to control yourself, see an MD for a medication evaluation. Inability to control emotions is often a real physical disorder that can be helped!
Give up drinking. Alcohol use is associated with anger and violence.
Never, ever hit, punch, tap or push your partner or any object.
Never, ever walk away from, walk ahead of, roll your eyes, yawn, breath hard, sigh, frown, or make any other unnecessary behavioral expressions of anger towards your partner.
Make eye contact when addressing your partner or replying to them.
Acts of omission are no less angry than acts of commission.
Your criticism is not "constructive."
Do not make threats.
Everything you think, do, like, dislike, wear, eat, etc., is your responsibility. Own it.
Nobody makes you angry. You do that to yourself. That is why only you can stop it.
Remember all these things when you are angry.
